Patmos Abbey - the Order of St Columba
  • Welcome!
  • Order of St Columba -An Introduction
    • Our Story
    • Our Mission
    • Our Values
    • How does Abbey see Jesus of Nazareth?
  • Celtic Spirituality
    • A Concise History of the Celtic Way
    • A Litany of Celtic Saints
    • Ita - Nurtura of Saints -January 15
    • Brigid of Kildare - February 6
    • Patrick - apostle to Ireland - March 17
    • Egbert - April 24th
    • Venerable Bede - May 25
    • Columba of Iona - June 9
    • Kilian - the missionary - July 8th
    • Aidan of Lindisfarne - August 31
    • Ciaran - September 9th
    • Francis of Assisi - October 4th
    • Columbanus - November 23rd
    • Finian of Clonard - December 12th
    • What is the influence of the Celtic Christianity?
    • What is the relevance of Celtis Christianity in the 21st century?
    • Some features of Celtic Spirituality
    • Celtic Cross
  • The Abbey
    • Ways of Connecting
    • The Emerging expression of community
    • House communities and the Jesus Movement - a perspective
    • Monastic Virtues and Ecumenical Hopes
  • Mingary Online Oratory
    • Requests for Intercession
    • Light a Candle
    • 3 minute a day 'mini-breaks'
    • Reflect as you Go
    • Labyrinth Walk
    • Music and Chant Reflections
    • Daily Reflection "bread 4 life"
    • Lectio Divina - for each day
    • Daily Office
    • Remembering those we love...
    • Taize
    • Calendar
    • Plainchant
  • The Abbey Institute of Spiritual Direction and life-mentoring
    • Spiritual Direction >
      • 12 Steps recovery and Spiritual Direction
    • Prayers and Spirituality
    • Spirituality and Practice - the power of 12
    • Jewish Table Blessings
    • Solitude with God
    • Rituals and Blessings to help Family life
    • Prayers for Healing Painful Memories
    • Patrick of Ireland's Breastplate prayer
    • Celtic Blessings
    • Casting a caim or encircling prayer
    • The Jesus Prayer
    • Lectio Divina
    • Quiet Quest
    • How to meditate
    • Guided meditations...
    • Coping with Change
  • ColumCille House
  • Outreach - SmallSteps Project
    • Myphatso
  • The Christian Year
    • Lectionary Resources
    • Advent Prayers, Resources and Themes
    • Christmas - New Year >
      • A Celtic Christmas reflection
      • A Celtic New Year Blessing and Prayer
      • The Epiphany
    • Morning and Evening Prayer for Lent
    • Lenten resources
    • Holy Week and Easter
    • A Pentecost reflection
    • Some Pentecost prayers
  • The Four Gospels and Paul
    • Matthew
    • Mark
    • Luke
    • John
    • Paul of Tarsus
  • St Columba's School of Theology and Ministry
  • Monastery of the Heart Network
  • Abbey Blog - Guest Book
  • Suggested Reading
  • St Aidan's Bookstore
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  • Contact us...
  • Charter of Compassion
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  • The Lindisfarne Gospels
  • Book of Kells

Coping with Change

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Whether it's a relationship breakdown, new processes at work or just moving house, change is a part of everyone's life.

Our ability to deal with the changes that life throws at us depends on a range of factors, including our basic personality, the other things that are going on in our lives and how strong we're feeling at the time.

While some people are excited by change, most of us find it (to varying degrees) stressful and unsettling. There is often a sense of loss, even when the change brings about a positive outcome.

Unfortunately, we rarely get to decide when change is going to happen but we can learn to manage it.

The following tips can help you cope with changes in your work life and personal life. Some of them are just old-fashioned common sense but,
put into practice, they can make a very real difference.

1.    Develop good support networks.

People with friends they can rely on during stressful times are able to cope better with the pressures associated with change.

2.    Accept that changes will happen.

Acknowledging that change can take place will help you to accept change more readily when it does happen.

3. Look for the positive.

Even the most difficult change can produce positive results. Instead of dwelling on the things you don't like, try to focus on the benefits and opportunities that the change could bring you.

4. Be kind to yourself.

When there are big changes in your work life - such as new technology or different work processes - accept that learning takes time. Don't add to your stress by trying to be an expert straight away.

5.   Deal with one change at a time.

If there are lots of changes going on in your work life, you should probably think about postponing those home renovations! Having parts of your life that are dependable and familiar can help you handle change in other areas of your life.

6. Look after your self

Eat a balanced diet, exercise and get enough rest. Make time to do some things you enjoy.

7. Ask useful questions.

Instead of asking "Why is this happening to me?", try asking yourself questions
that will help you move forward. For example: "How will I need to change my daily routine to fit in with this new process?"

8.    Use your available resources.

Try to think creatively about what you have at hand to help you cope. Useful
resources in times of change include self-help books, websites, spiritual direction and counselling ... as well as friends and family, time, holidays and a positive attitude. 



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