Coping with Change
Whether it's a relationship breakdown, new processes at work or just moving house, change is a part of everyone's life.
Our ability to deal with the changes that life throws at us depends on a range of factors, including our basic personality, the other things that are going on in our lives and how strong we're feeling at the time.
While some people are excited by change, most of us find it (to varying degrees) stressful and unsettling. There is often a sense of loss, even when the change brings about a positive outcome.
Unfortunately, we rarely get to decide when change is going to happen but we can learn to manage it.
The following tips can help you cope with changes in your work life and personal life. Some of them are just old-fashioned common sense but,
put into practice, they can make a very real difference.
1. Develop good support networks.
People with friends they can rely on during stressful times are able to cope better with the pressures associated with change.
2. Accept that changes will happen.
Acknowledging that change can take place will help you to accept change more readily when it does happen.
3. Look for the positive.
Even the most difficult change can produce positive results. Instead of dwelling on the things you don't like, try to focus on the benefits and opportunities that the change could bring you.
4. Be kind to yourself.
When there are big changes in your work life - such as new technology or different work processes - accept that learning takes time. Don't add to your stress by trying to be an expert straight away.
5. Deal with one change at a time.
If there are lots of changes going on in your work life, you should probably think about postponing those home renovations! Having parts of your life that are dependable and familiar can help you handle change in other areas of your life.
6. Look after your self
Eat a balanced diet, exercise and get enough rest. Make time to do some things you enjoy.
7. Ask useful questions.
Instead of asking "Why is this happening to me?", try asking yourself questions
that will help you move forward. For example: "How will I need to change my daily routine to fit in with this new process?"
8. Use your available resources.
Try to think creatively about what you have at hand to help you cope. Useful
resources in times of change include self-help books, websites, spiritual direction and counselling ... as well as friends and family, time, holidays and a positive attitude.